August 2021  by

The Proverbs 31 Woman: An Introduction

Do you cringe at the mention of the Proverbs 31 woman? (Did you cringe just reading the title of this post?) If so, you’re not alone—I would dare to say that most Christian women are right there with you. At one time or another we’ve all buckled under the guilt and shame of trying to live up to this passage’s list of “you should” messages. Nobody likes to be “should” on:

  • “You should be the perfect companion to your spouse, advancing his status in the community.”
  • “You should work in the garden, the kitchen, or the sewing room to add income to the annual budget.”
  • “You should raise well-mannered and well-dressed children, feeding them three square meals a day.”

No doubt the virtuous Proverbs 31 woman rose before dawn and worked late into the evening to complete the lofty inventory of tiresome tasks contained in just twenty-one verses. Studying her example can leave us feeling equal parts admiration and agitation.

But here’s the thing: we don’t often think about the overall context of this passage when we read it. Here are just a few comforting points to consider:

  • First, this list was compiled by a woman, specifically King Lemuel’s mother (see Proverbs 31:1). She hoped to instruct her son on how to make one of the most important decisions of his life—choosing a wife.
  • Secondly, the virtuous woman was more than a stay-at-home mother. She thrived in multiple business endeavors, from marketing to real estate to trading. To all my businesswomen friends, know that the Bible does not shun working outside the home.
  • Finally, Proverbs 31 was not intended to be a list of daily chores. Instead, it should be read as an epitaph, extolling the achievements of a lifetime.

In other words, relax—you’ve got plenty of time. If you’re not married yet, don’t stress. If your plans to have children have been delayed by finances or infertility, be patient. Simply bloom where you are planted and enjoy the season of life you currently inhabit. God’s timing is perfect.

An important thing to remember is that the Holy Spirit inspired this aspirational text to be included in the Bible and serve as a template for the ideal woman. God created you on purpose and for a purpose. He loves you and has an amazing plan for your life, no matter what season you’re currently in. I pray that you’d keep that in mind as we unpack the details of the Proverbs 31 woman together.

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Franchesca Bayne

Sheologie Director

Franchesca Bayne serves as Sheologie's program director by overseeing the daily operations of women's ministries and organizing and hosting programs/services such as prayer groups, connect groups, Bible study, retreats, outreach programs, and outbound communication. She also facilitates support services and/or performing community outreach to attract new members. Franchesca has an AS in accounting, BA in Christian Foundations, and MA in Christian Counseling.

She was born and raised in New Mexico, and is married to her best friend, pastor, and business partner. Together, they have two incredible teenagers, Maddie and Declan, who also serve in ministry. She has a heart for the people, the broken, the misunderstood, and the everyday people just like her. She loves to build community. Franchesca's spoken at many events and loves to share the light and love of Jesus in truth. Franchesca passionately lives to lead others to Christ as she follows Him and calls it "A Journey" as she lives out being a Christian in the many hats she wears: daughter, sister, auntie, mom, wife, pastors' wife, life coach, community leader, and friend. Her hobbies include, pick-up games of basketball, softball, canoeing, and international cooking styles. You can stop by her office anytime to say "Hi" and see what's next, or for prayer.

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Madison Newcomb

Sheologie Bible Study Coordinator

Madison was born in Albuquerque, New Mexico. She has a heart for both women's and children's ministry and loves seeing them eagerly pursue the gospel. Discipling those who God calls to her brings her pure joy. She is passionate about women finding their confidence and identity in Christ alone. Madison loves teaching kindergarteners in Calvary Kids on Sunday mornings, spending time with family and friends, gardening, and brunch.

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Brandi Mares

Special Events Coordinator

Brandi Mares was born in Albuquerque, NM. She has a heart to see women grow in the Word of God, and see it transform their lives. She was once a hopeless, lost young girl, but the Lord gave her a whole new life in Christ. She has a heart for praying with people God places in her path and seeing them restored. Her greatest blessings in life are her relationship with Christ, her husband, and her three beautiful children.

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Kayla Maria

Ministry/Digital Communications Coordinator

Kayla Maria was born and raised in Albuquerque, NM. She is creative, and delights in photography and social media because she gets to honor the Lord through her skills. Kayla has a heart for youth and women, especially those who feel purposeless, because she was once that girl who had no purpose. She believes in loving all the lost. She spends her free time rock climbing, traveling, and just hanging out with friends.

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